Is it Sexual Assault if I was Drunk?
Direct Answer: No, being drunk or intoxicated does not excuse someone from committing sexual assault.
What is Sexual Assault?
Sexual assault is a serious crime in which someone forces or coerce another person to engage in sexual activity without their explicit consent. Consent is not the absence of "no," but the presence of a enthusiastic "yes" (source: RAINN – Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network). When someone is drunk or incapacitated, they are not capable of giving informed and enthusiastic consent.
Rape by Chemical Substances
The term "rape by chemical substances" refers to the use of drugs or alcohol to incapacitate someone and sexually assault them. Alcohol is a common culprit, as it can render a person unable to say no or resist sexual advances. However, just because someone was drunk does not mean they are at fault for the assault. The perpetrator is still responsible for their actions.
Blame and Responsibility
Often, victims of sexual assault are blamed for their attack, with comments like, "You were drunk, so you must have encouraged it." This kind of victim-blaming is unacceptable. The burden of responsibility lies solely on the perpetrator, not the victim. It’s not the victim’s fault that they were drunk; it’s the perpetrator’s responsibility to respect their boundaries, even if they were drunk.
What if You were Drunk?
If you were drunk or intoxicated and someone took advantage of you, it does not mean you are partially responsible for the assault. You are still the victim. You had the right to be left alone and respected, even if you were impaired.
What Can You Do?
If you experienced sexual assault while drunk:
• Report it to the authorities, regardless of how long ago the incident occurred.
• Seek support from rape crisis centers, counselors, or trusted friends and family.
• Consider obtaining a sexual assault medical evaluation, which can help treat any physical injuries and preserve evidence.
• Realize that you are not to blame. The perpetrator is the only one responsible.
Myths and Misconceptions
Some common misconceptions about sexual assault that involve alcohol include:
| Myth | Reality |
|---|---|
| A drunk person is too incapacitated to consent to sex. | False, but a drunk person can still be capable of enthusiastic consent. |
| Drinking with someone implies consent for sex. | False, drinking with someone does not imply consent for sex, even if you were intoxicated. |
| It was a "misunderstanding" or "just a mistake." | False, sexual assault is never okay, regardless of circumstances or intentions. |
Bystander Intervention
Even if you were drunk or intoxicated, you can still be a bystander. If you witness someone trying to take advantage of an intoxicated person, you have the power to intervene or report the incident. Remember:
• Speak up: If you witness behavior that makes you uncomfortable or suspicious, say something or report it to the authorities.
• Be mindful of your surroundings: Even if you’re out drinking, be aware of the people around you and step in if you notice any concerning behavior.
• Trust your instincts: If you feel uncomfortable or sense danger, trust your instincts and remove yourself from the situation.
Conclusion
Rape by chemical substances is a serious crime that happens to people of all backgrounds and ages. Intoxication does not imply consent. If you’ve experienced sexual assault, don’t blame yourself. Reach out for support and seek justice. Remember, it’s never okay to pressure or coerce someone into sex, regardless of the circumstances.
Resources
National Sexual Assault Hotline:
1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network):
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.org
National Victim Access and Notification (VASA):
1-877-433-8987
